Saturday, May 11, 2013
The Money Chakra..!!
Saturday, March 27, 2010
To listen is an effort..!!
Everything has been said before, but since nobody listens we have to keep going back and beginning all over again. This is very common and stupid example that we all have experience in our day-to-day communication. I had never thought that, I will write something on “listening”. But the first few days of my job encouraged me to concentrate on this part of communication process, after all which boss in the world would like to repeat his instructions again and again in front of his subordinates.
Listening is a magnetic and strange thing, a creative force. The people who listen to us are the ones we move toward. When we are listened to, it creates us, makes us unfold and expand. But still it is the most underestimated factor which is overlooked by all age groups. While interacting, people often are not listening attentively to one another. They may be distracted, thinking about other things, or thinking about what they are going to say next (the latter case is particularly true in conflict situations or disagreements).
- Factor of Abundance: The ‘Factor of Abundance’ says that, an individual resist to listen because he perceives that he knows more than the speaker. So why should he waste his time listening to speaker. An example for the same can be noticed in a GD (Group Discussion) round where all the candidates try to fire all their ideas, opinions one by one without being concern of others view point.
- Factor of Scarcity: As per ‘Factor of Scarcity’, an individual refuses to listen actively because he perceives that he will not be able to comprehend in the same manner in which speaker is conveying. That is because of lack of knowledge or slow thought process of listener. Example to this factor can be a classroom, where some students are very active and some seems to be completely lost.
There is couple of limitations with these factors; a) It is not a universal truth; & 2) Sometimes it doesn’t work, but exceptions are always there. But most of our problems become simpler if we take care of these factors while communicating. Listening is with the mind, it is a process which generates ideas, thoughts, attitudes and emotions. But to listen an effort is needed and just hear is of no merit.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
LIVE Life and don't spend it...
"Define what happiness is to you"
- They think anxiously about the future and forget the present, such that they live in neither the present nor the future.
- They lose their health to earn money and then lose money to restore health.
- They live as if they will never die, and die as though they had never lived.